I sent this from my iPhone, I thought it went to messages...I haven't been on the actual FaceBook site in so long that I've missed all of the recent changes, lol. I hope your feeling well today. I was talking to my friend who I know you'll just love if I can get you two to meet each other..she mentions so many of the feelings you express and I think its so amazing! She feels torn up by recent bad things that have happened to her but she's coping so much better than she ever has before because she's using some of the skills I'm teaching her.
She's able to reflect on things with greater understanding and less hurt/pain.
It's hard to take our minds of the problems and keep them off long enough to learn a skill that will help us through or OUT of it.
When you're young nothing is failure.
When you're young nothing is failure.
When you're young nothing is failure.
I repeat this because it's vital that you learn this!
Everything you do now is only practice.
Everything you do now is only practice.
Everything you do now is only practice
Young people make misjudgements (not mistakes)
Young people make misjudgements (not mistakes)
Young people make misjudgements (not mistakes)
...Because they lack experience or guidance from someone who has experience. They are not supported fully.
...Because they lack experience or guidance from someone who has experience. They are not supported fully.
...Because they lack experience or guidance from someone who has experience. They are not supported fully.
In the US young adults are expected to fledge earlier than they are capable of succeeding on their on experience.. Age is not enough.
They need to be supported until they have a strong work skill, employed in a stable job and have made at least one promotion, should remain on that support until they have saved enough money for the down payment on their first house and their credit is built up to a positive FICA score.
THAT IS THAT.
But sadly, many families either don't know this (like my parents) or they lack the means to give this support to their kids and lastly some parents weren't meant to be parents but were misled by tradition that they are going to grow up, have a family and that will make them happy. Kids should not be chided about how many boy/girl friends they have. It puts the expectation (programing) in their head to go in that direction.
I raised my kids that they needed to search their hearts as to whether or not they felt that they should be single persons or were more suited to family life.
This was to help prevent unhappy parents with unhappy children.
I am a single parent and was not able to give the full support my kids needed. But I was able to do a little of all of it.
Partly, they were overanxious to become adults with fun lives and left the nest sooner than necessary.
My oldest got involved with a bad guy and got pregnant with my first grand child. She had to endure much abuse from the baby's father through the court system and my grandbaby was finally molested by her paternal grandpa and uncle with the help of her grandmother while her dad ignored it until the FBI got up in his face.
My oldest got involved with a bad guy and got pregnant with my first grand child. She had to endure much abuse from the baby's father through the court system and my grandbaby was finally molested by her paternal grandpa and uncle with the help of her grandmother while her dad ignored it until the FBI got up in his face.
My son fledged to get out of sharing family responsibility only to later express his remorse and regrets with tears rolling down his cheeks. He got in trouble soon after leaving on his own at 19 and almost went to prison, attempted suicide twice while staying with his dad before he came to live with me here in CO and I spent everything within and outside myself helping him get turned around.
Even the best parenting isn't enough when the kids leave too soon.
My third child met a guy who puts his career ahead of her and their family to be. She listened better than her siblings though, she finished school, built her credit, bought a beautiful car, got a great job as a dental assistant, got a promotion and a few raises, entered college for dental hygienist..and got involved with this guy, her grades fell, was tired all the time..work was harder..savings disappeared...
I'm raising my forth, she's only nine, gifted/talented...and there's no guaranties.
I CAN"T TEACH MY KIDS HOW TO LIVE.
I CAN ONLY TEACH THE HOW TO WIN!
They are winning. One better than the other due to their choices and level of experience and what they'd let me give them and what I was capable of giving.
Learn to look for lessons in things, keeping in mind firmly that God will NEVER try you with evil things.
Look for gifts...they hide in everything and everyone.
Learn HOW to see. How to look at things.
If you don't learn how to look and how to see (they are different) we will never know WHAT we lived.
If you don't learn how to look and how to see (they are different) we will never know WHAT we lived.
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